"He broke my heart...yes I was burned, but I call it a lesson learned."
No one should be bitter about love. Everything happens for a reason, and if nothing else, every adventure in love is a lesson learned. Whether it turns out well or not, you learned something valuable that you can take on the next journey. The funny thing is, we're all learning the same lessons at different paces, with different people.
In this lesson, he smashed my heart. He didn't break it. He couldn't break it because I didn't fully give it to him, but he squeezed it so hard that tears almost came out. He stomped on my pride, slapped the shit out of my feelings, and I'm glad. Thank you sir. Because fighters, they have to learn how to jab and uppercut, and hit hard, but equally important is how they practice ducking, blocking, and taking punches. I was upset, but not for long, because how can you be mad at someone who volunteers to make you a better person? Next time, I'll move a little quicker, duck a little lower, and if i get hit, it's not so bad, because I've been hit before.
Fighting hurts. You walk away with bruises, cuts, all banged up and throbbing, but think about the glory when you win the fight. The whole crowd cheering for you, the referee holding your arm high, the feel of the cool metal on your championship belt against your hot skin...it's all worth it. So thank you sir. Thank you for the training session, I'm one step closer to being Ali.
I'm the greatest!
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Love is...
Okay, in my last couple of posts, readers could say I contradict myself. I say niggas ain't shit, but tell women to take responsibility. I note that girls just wanna have fun, but I say that I need to stay focused on my purpose. Well let me tell you doubtful readers something - Love is a contradiction. It's nonsense. It makes ultimate sense. It's like, dislike, happy, sad, mad, taste, touch, smell, sight...it is everything. It's constant change, but it always stays the same. Sound like a contradiction? I thought so.
True Story
Dedicated to Just Blaze
"And the truth shall set you free..."
He told her everything in the beginning. He had never done that before, but he laid it all out on the table, all the nasty, dirty, wonderful, beautiful secrets of his past. He knew all of it wasn't great, but he liked this girl, and for her, he bared his soul. He wanted her to know the past because in the future, he only wanted to move forward. And he wanted to do it with her. The result? She was suspiscious of him! She watched his every move, looking for signs of infidelity. In the beginning, rightfully so, but he eventually proved himself to her over and over again. Over time, she continued to nag him, and even though he opened himself to her in order to build trust, she couldn't handle it, and the trust between them was fragmented. Can you have a relationship without trust? No. Can you do it without full trust? Not for long. Soon he tired of her accusations, her unsupported suspiscions, and he quit. She was confused. She had all the evidence, but no proof! Even after they split, he took care of her. She found herself in a dangerous situation, and he rescued her. Did he still care? Of course he did, but he couldn't be with her, when her heart was with him, but her mind was with his past. He quit.
Are we women so jaded now that we can't recognize a good man when we see one? I know I said niggas ain't shit, but I also said real men are THE shit. Do we not know the difference? Ladies, I feel like sometimes we take the pepsi challenge and choose Jif. We need to take responsibility and give credit where credit is due. In the story above, this man allowed himself to be judged by his woman. She, as the judge, considered all the evidence and found him guilty, but he had committed no crime. Ladies, this is my plea to you...if you have a good one, take care of him! There are so few out there, or if they're out there, they're in the deepest corners of diamond mines. But here's the thing about that...the most beautiful diamonds are found in the deepest, darkest, dirtiest corners of the mine.
Ladies, if you have a diamond, allow him to shine. Know where he came from, but know where he's going. Don't reach a verdict too soon. Take the above as a cautionary tale. It's a true story.
P.S. And what about him? Is he doomed to be loveless because his woman couldn't appreciate his honesty? No, because there are too many others who will see him for what he is. Love is crazy like that, it's almost like we're meant NOT to have the ones we want just because it would make us happy. So pause. If you love her, then it's worth another try. Make her see, make her know that you are her Adam, her Prince Charming, her Quincy McCall. And if she still doesn't get it, then she doesn't deserve you. I know, it's fucked up, because you probably deserve her, and much more, but time will reveal a love that is true. If that love is with her, wonderful! If not, it's not the end of the world, just the end of this chapter in your life. It's easier said than done once you've put in time with a person, but don't let someone else's mistakes ruin you for the next woman. You too, need to realize that you are a commodity.
"And the truth shall set you free..."
He told her everything in the beginning. He had never done that before, but he laid it all out on the table, all the nasty, dirty, wonderful, beautiful secrets of his past. He knew all of it wasn't great, but he liked this girl, and for her, he bared his soul. He wanted her to know the past because in the future, he only wanted to move forward. And he wanted to do it with her. The result? She was suspiscious of him! She watched his every move, looking for signs of infidelity. In the beginning, rightfully so, but he eventually proved himself to her over and over again. Over time, she continued to nag him, and even though he opened himself to her in order to build trust, she couldn't handle it, and the trust between them was fragmented. Can you have a relationship without trust? No. Can you do it without full trust? Not for long. Soon he tired of her accusations, her unsupported suspiscions, and he quit. She was confused. She had all the evidence, but no proof! Even after they split, he took care of her. She found herself in a dangerous situation, and he rescued her. Did he still care? Of course he did, but he couldn't be with her, when her heart was with him, but her mind was with his past. He quit.
Are we women so jaded now that we can't recognize a good man when we see one? I know I said niggas ain't shit, but I also said real men are THE shit. Do we not know the difference? Ladies, I feel like sometimes we take the pepsi challenge and choose Jif. We need to take responsibility and give credit where credit is due. In the story above, this man allowed himself to be judged by his woman. She, as the judge, considered all the evidence and found him guilty, but he had committed no crime. Ladies, this is my plea to you...if you have a good one, take care of him! There are so few out there, or if they're out there, they're in the deepest corners of diamond mines. But here's the thing about that...the most beautiful diamonds are found in the deepest, darkest, dirtiest corners of the mine.
Ladies, if you have a diamond, allow him to shine. Know where he came from, but know where he's going. Don't reach a verdict too soon. Take the above as a cautionary tale. It's a true story.
P.S. And what about him? Is he doomed to be loveless because his woman couldn't appreciate his honesty? No, because there are too many others who will see him for what he is. Love is crazy like that, it's almost like we're meant NOT to have the ones we want just because it would make us happy. So pause. If you love her, then it's worth another try. Make her see, make her know that you are her Adam, her Prince Charming, her Quincy McCall. And if she still doesn't get it, then she doesn't deserve you. I know, it's fucked up, because you probably deserve her, and much more, but time will reveal a love that is true. If that love is with her, wonderful! If not, it's not the end of the world, just the end of this chapter in your life. It's easier said than done once you've put in time with a person, but don't let someone else's mistakes ruin you for the next woman. You too, need to realize that you are a commodity.
Rollercoaster Ride
Okay ladies and gents. I know it was a long commercial break, but I'm back now. If you haven't figured it out from my previous posts, I'm a person with a lot of passion, and I think it's time to focus that passion and be productive. I always say I'm going to do it, but this time I feel like I really am. This one's for the fam.
So tonight's topic: Why do we always want the opposite of what we have? And furthermore, why do we want the ones who don't want us? First off, as usual, I'm going to apply this to relationships. I always thought I wanted a man to pay me attention, to call and text me and want me to spend time with him, and I got a small glimpse of it, and didn't want it. Damn. And I say damn because I know if it was a nigga who didn't want me, a nigga I had to chase, I'd be ecstatic. So what's wrong with me? Do I have to feel an electric spark for me to have feelings at all? Why do I keep trying to catch the roadrunner if I know that I'll be the one hurt in the end? Why do I keep eating popeye's if I know it's going to clog my arteries sooner or later? And why do I climb up steep ass hills, when I can just walk the plateaus? Why do I live a thug life when I know I'm saved? I'll tell you why - it's the thrill of the chase, the taste of the meal, and the glory I feel when I reach the top of the hill, it's the rush I feel as I live each day as a thug. That's why. Don't feel bad about wanting what you don't have, because that's what drive is all about. You see something you want, and you go get it. When you've reached that goal, you find a new one. Same as in relationships. Now ultimately, everyone is looking for a lifelong mate, but this time in life is not the time to start that search. Enjoy the chase. A word to the fam - there are ups and downs and loops on rollercoasters, but if it was a straight ride, if there was no thrill, would we ride them?? You have to go down to get up, and vice versa. Enjoy the ride.
So tonight's topic: Why do we always want the opposite of what we have? And furthermore, why do we want the ones who don't want us? First off, as usual, I'm going to apply this to relationships. I always thought I wanted a man to pay me attention, to call and text me and want me to spend time with him, and I got a small glimpse of it, and didn't want it. Damn. And I say damn because I know if it was a nigga who didn't want me, a nigga I had to chase, I'd be ecstatic. So what's wrong with me? Do I have to feel an electric spark for me to have feelings at all? Why do I keep trying to catch the roadrunner if I know that I'll be the one hurt in the end? Why do I keep eating popeye's if I know it's going to clog my arteries sooner or later? And why do I climb up steep ass hills, when I can just walk the plateaus? Why do I live a thug life when I know I'm saved? I'll tell you why - it's the thrill of the chase, the taste of the meal, and the glory I feel when I reach the top of the hill, it's the rush I feel as I live each day as a thug. That's why. Don't feel bad about wanting what you don't have, because that's what drive is all about. You see something you want, and you go get it. When you've reached that goal, you find a new one. Same as in relationships. Now ultimately, everyone is looking for a lifelong mate, but this time in life is not the time to start that search. Enjoy the chase. A word to the fam - there are ups and downs and loops on rollercoasters, but if it was a straight ride, if there was no thrill, would we ride them?? You have to go down to get up, and vice versa. Enjoy the ride.
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