True Story

Dedicated to Just Blaze

"And the truth shall set you free..."

He told her everything in the beginning. He had never done that before, but he laid it all out on the table, all the nasty, dirty, wonderful, beautiful secrets of his past. He knew all of it wasn't great, but he liked this girl, and for her, he bared his soul. He wanted her to know the past because in the future, he only wanted to move forward. And he wanted to do it with her. The result? She was suspiscious of him! She watched his every move, looking for signs of infidelity. In the beginning, rightfully so, but he eventually proved himself to her over and over again. Over time, she continued to nag him, and even though he opened himself to her in order to build trust, she couldn't handle it, and the trust between them was fragmented. Can you have a relationship without trust? No. Can you do it without full trust? Not for long. Soon he tired of her accusations, her unsupported suspiscions, and he quit. She was confused. She had all the evidence, but no proof! Even after they split, he took care of her. She found herself in a dangerous situation, and he rescued her. Did he still care? Of course he did, but he couldn't be with her, when her heart was with him, but her mind was with his past. He quit.

Are we women so jaded now that we can't recognize a good man when we see one? I know I said niggas ain't shit, but I also said real men are THE shit. Do we not know the difference? Ladies, I feel like sometimes we take the pepsi challenge and choose Jif. We need to take responsibility and give credit where credit is due. In the story above, this man allowed himself to be judged by his woman. She, as the judge, considered all the evidence and found him guilty, but he had committed no crime. Ladies, this is my plea to you...if you have a good one, take care of him! There are so few out there, or if they're out there, they're in the deepest corners of diamond mines. But here's the thing about that...the most beautiful diamonds are found in the deepest, darkest, dirtiest corners of the mine.

Ladies, if you have a diamond, allow him to shine. Know where he came from, but know where he's going. Don't reach a verdict too soon. Take the above as a cautionary tale. It's a true story.

P.S. And what about him? Is he doomed to be loveless because his woman couldn't appreciate his honesty? No, because there are too many others who will see him for what he is. Love is crazy like that, it's almost like we're meant NOT to have the ones we want just because it would make us happy. So pause. If you love her, then it's worth another try. Make her see, make her know that you are her Adam, her Prince Charming, her Quincy McCall. And if she still doesn't get it, then she doesn't deserve you. I know, it's fucked up, because you probably deserve her, and much more, but time will reveal a love that is true. If that love is with her, wonderful! If not, it's not the end of the world, just the end of this chapter in your life. It's easier said than done once you've put in time with a person, but don't let someone else's mistakes ruin you for the next woman. You too, need to realize that you are a commodity.